I recently held a session with a client that had themes to do with masculine versus feminine energy which I believe may put some additional perspective on this.
I see energy and how it moves physically. Masculine energy is like our Sun. Masculine energy is generated by us and will then flow away from us, an explosion is a good example of this although masculine energy does not need to be violent in its nature to remain masculine. It’s about moving, doing.
Feminine energy is the complete opposite, it is an implosion energy. It takes energy from around it and draws it in to integrate with it.
Masculine energy is dual in its nature, either / or, it separates. Feminine energy is integrative, it combines.
Positive Thinking is masculine in nature. The very point about creating either masculine or feminine thinking means that we have a dual approach. Trying to go from one point to another and disintegrating the other part. By using a positive thinking approach, you are immediately setting up imbalance. It is a plain rejection of anything negative that resides within your energy. That negative energy is as much a part of you as anything that is positive, and it needs to be honoured with the same level of intensity.
Positive thinking comes about because we are trying to move away from negative emotions or challenges or perspectives that we perceive as painful and we try to avoid. Moving away is masculine in nature.
When was the last time that you healed something by not dealing with it?
The feminine approach to achieve the actual result you’re looking for is to acknowledge, honour and work with your wounds.
You can’t work “on” a wound, you work “with” a wound.
Emotional energy in essence, is simply an indicator to us that there are parts of us which need healing.
Masculine energy leads us astray immediately by doing this:
A painful emotion arises when triggered by an event, something someone said, a memory, a new trauma. We attach the pain as being attributed to the story – the event when in actual fact it is the emotion that is causing the pain.
When you disassociate the story after an emotion rises, the emotion has nothing to feed on and cannot sustain itself, meaning that the emotional feeling will dissipate.
A way that we can deal with our symptoms (the regularly occurring emotions) is to drop the story so that the emotion goes away temporarily. A tool that I find very useful is to identify my emotional energies and actively disconnect the story that I am associating with it. When a situation arises and I begin to have an emotion I recognize the emotion not the story. This helps, but we still need to deal with the origin of why the emotion rises in the first place.
Once I begin to clear the emotions (be it fear, rage, grief, envy etc) my emotions become more balanced and I find that I am not being triggered by the same stories any more because they have lost their emotional feeding source.
If I was simply to try and positively think my way out of these emotions I would simply be wasting my time. And frankly, by operating from a dual perspective and only trying to stay in the positive is completely missing the point.
Our emotions are designed to highlight areas for us to work with.By applying a masculine approach which is dual in nature you, are then rejecting that very part of you which is trying to alert you of the requirement for healing.
Balance is feminine in nature, because it integrates both sides of the story. You cannot be balanced unless you have both sides.
Acceptance is feminine in nature. Where we have gone wrong, is by over-identifying our masculine side that says “acceptance equates to weakness”.
The ironic part about this is that we can’t actually work on anything until we first accept it.
Use a feminine approach first, then integrate the masculine, because we still need to “do” in order to heal. And “doing” is masculine. Integrate both. Use feminine first.